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Custody, the Courts, and Medical Decisions

When a couple gets divorced or parents that are never married but break up, their child custody agreement dictates who has decision-making authority for things such as education and medical issues. The parents need to follow the terms of their agreement or court may modify it. Of current importance, is a parent’s decision to vaccinate their child(ren), especially as we all face COVID. Recently, in March 2022, the New York State Second Department Appellate Division Court in the case of Matter of Soper v. Soper, changed the medical decision-making of a family’s custody order. In this case, both parents had joint legal custody and medical decision-making was agreed upon to be deferred to the children’s pediatrician.  The mother did not want the [...]

By |2022-04-25T20:09:42-04:00April 26, 2022|Divorce Blog Posts|

Do I Need to Collect Child Support Through the Child Support Collection Unit?

For some parents, collecting child support is not an issue, for others they need to chase after the other parent to make sure payments are made and that they are made on time. As a custodial parent or guardian, you can collect child support from the child support collection unit (CSCU) from New York State. CSCU acts as the middleman by collecting the payment and then processing the payment to you. Only the parent who was awarded the child support can set up this account but setting it up is not mandatory.  It’s a simple process, though, if you choose to do so.  To set up the account you will need to provide some personal information, the bank account in which the [...]

By |2022-02-01T15:29:57-05:00January 31, 2022|Divorce Blog Posts|

Don’t Be the Family Grinch This Holiday Season – Follow These Tips to Make It Easy for Everyone

We are heading into the Holiday Season – Thanksgiving, Chanukah and Christmas are just weeks away. And yes, there are presents and parties, but there is also an enormous amount of stress for families going through a divorce, or already divorced or separated.  There are ways, however, to make it less stressful. If you have your children for one or all of the holidays, make sure you share your plans with your ex. Where you are going, when you are going, hotel and flight information. Don’t let your feeling about your ex interfere with your children. Keep those feelings to yourself.  Don’t use your holiday time with your children to vent. That’s not a present [...]

By |2021-11-17T18:43:59-05:00November 17, 2021|Divorce Blog Posts|

Lessons For Heading Back to School

While we don’t want to admit it, the kids will be heading back to school sooner rather than later. As parents we want to make sure our children have a great experience, both at school and at home, but as a divorced family there may be some extra boxes to check off on that back-to-school list. Both parents should be involved in their child(ren)s education.  Both should have equal access to electronic documents, such as start and end times, bus schedules, class schedules, teacher contact information and report cards.  Don’t rely on your ex to provide this information to you or communicate on your behalf.  Make sure you are proactive and get this information ahead [...]

By |2021-07-29T11:21:19-04:00July 29, 2021|Divorce Blog Posts|

Don’t Let Your Custody Agreement Heat Up This Summer

By Gayle Rosenblum Custody arrangements can truly be stress-free if the lines of communication between both parents are kept open. Here are some tips to keep your summer smooth and stress-free: It is important to plan ahead. Talk to your ex about your plans and their plans this summer for the child(ren) in advance.  If there are conflicts, suggest solutions.  Be mindful of occasions and commitments that may need to take precedent, such as holidays, birthdays, vacations, day trips, camp and sports. Do not wait until the last minute. Not only do you have to be mindful of each of your schedules but the availability of the activities that you wish to enroll your children [...]

By |2021-06-10T00:11:54-04:00June 10, 2021|Divorce Blog Posts|

Recreational Marijuana – Nothing Changes, You Still Need to Act as a Responsible Parent

On March 31, Governor Andrew Cuomo signed legislation (S.854-A/A.128-A) legalizing recreational marijuana use in New York State.  It is now legal for adults 21 years and older to smoke, ingest or consume cannabis products, or give them to other people of the same legal age, with certain restrictions on quantities.  The bill also allows for up to five pounds of cannabis to be stored in a home if it is securely stored away from children. The legalization of marijuana comes with strict guidelines, just as the sale and use of tobacco and alcohol. The use of recreational marijuana, when around children, should be treated with the same regard as alcohol and cigarettes. Parents must use appropriate judgment [...]

By |2021-04-12T23:05:21-04:00April 12, 2021|Divorce Blog Posts|

When Parents Need A Timeout During A Divorce

Getting a divorce is not easy for anyone, especially children. Parents sometimes tend to get wrapped up in their own emotions as they work through the divorce process and neglect how their children are feeling. The stress of a divorce will impact each child differently depending on their family situation, their age, and their personality - but in the end, parents need to remember that they are adults and need to act appropriately around their children. Even though you and your spouse are going your separate ways, you need to maintain a united front to help your children through this difficult time. Children should not be punished for decisions that you and/or your spouse [...]

By |2021-03-17T23:12:19-04:00March 17, 2021|Divorce Blog Posts|

Things To Do When Considering A Divorce

Getting a divorce isn’t as simple as two people saying “our marriage is over”.  There are multiple layers to a divorce, many of which most people don’t consider or understand. So, what do you need to know as you plan to end your marriage? Locate your assets and what will be divided. Get all of your financial documents in order. Find the deed to your home. Create a list of all shared debt and credit cards. Determine your custody goals. Be prepared for things to take time, divorce proceedings could take months depending on the situation. While this all may seem overwhelming, that is what we are here for.  We will help you navigate everything [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00February 19, 2021|Divorce Blog Posts|

COVID – Adapting with the times

When the ball dropped on New Year’s Eve, none of us could have imagined the world we were about to be thrown into just a mere two months later.  In the beginning, no one knew how to handle working from home with children. This was the unimaginable. The unthinkable. At the same time, if you work on the front lines, then you have to be conscious about being around your children, and other loved ones, even your ex or soon to be ex-spouse. As all of us are adapting to the new “norm,” we need to open minded and respectful, more than ever, of each other. Think outside of the box. Not what would otherwise [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00November 21, 2020|Divorce Blog Posts|

Leaving Litigation on the Mediation Table

  Divorce, it can be devastating for a family.  Battling it out in court can make things even more difficult. Sometimes there is no option but to litigate, however, for others mediation may be an option. Mediation takes two. It’s voluntary, and it only works if both sides are willing to participate.  Each party must go in with realistic expectations regarding things such as custody, visitation, property division, living arrangements, and other financial obligations.  Mediation is guided by the two parties and their specific needs and can allow them to reach settlements that would otherwise not be attainable in court. Mediation could take an hour, or it could take a month or longer depending on [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00October 23, 2020|Divorce Blog Posts|

Don’t Give Up Before You Give It A Try – Things to Consider Before Filing for Divorce

Divorce, for many, is the easy way out of a marriage that is in despair.  Sometimes couples are so wrapped up in the heat of the moment that they can’t see possible opportunities that may help address underlying issues and prevent them from filing for a divorce. Therapy and marriage counseling is a great place to start to work through any issues you may be experiencing. You’ll be engaging a third party, in a neutral space and be able to discuss freely and without judgment what’s going on in your lives. But this has to be a joint effort.  If both spouses aren’t willing to try this approach – whether it be individual therapy or [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00July 31, 2020|Divorce Blog Posts|

The COVID Quarantine – How to Co-Parent, Communicate and Connect

For nearly three months most of us have been confined to our homes. Learning the new rules of social distancing, wearing a mask, and engaging in virtual everything.  For some, these were just new ways of life to get used to; but for others, this virus took on a whole new life of co-parenting and sharing custody. If you or your ex are in a position where exposure is possible, then making sure you aren’t putting your children at risk is a conversation you need to have. Rather than escalate an already stressful situation, be amicable and come up with ways to keep your custody agreement intact while protecting the health and safety of everyone [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00May 31, 2020|Divorce Blog Posts|

It’s Not Over Until It’s Over

Your divorce papers are signed.  Your ex has moved out of the house. Your kids are preparing for their new norm of spending time with each of you.  While it may seem like this is officially the end of your marriage – there are actually a whole host of things you need to make sure you take care of – because it’s more than just signing on the dotted line. Once your divorce is finalized there are still other papers and legal matters that may need your attention. Life Insurance - how much do you have and who are the beneficiaries? The titles and insurance on your automobiles – whose name are they in? Do [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00March 2, 2020|Divorce Blog Posts|

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Family – Putting Your Differences Aside

December brings colder weather - some of us even welcome the snow - but don’t let your current family situation become bitter this holiday season.   Holidays can be stressful especially if you are going through, or are already divorced or separated, but, it’s this time of the year when putting your differences aside is the best gift you can give to your children. Before you push to have your children with you over the holidays and school recess stop and think about what is really feasible.  If you don’t have the time to take off from work then consider letting your ex take the kids over break.   Having them for the sake of having them [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00December 18, 2019|Divorce Blog Posts|

What to Expect When You Are Expecting A Divorce or Separation

Your marriage isn’t the same anymore.  You’ve grown apart, money is coming between you – there are endless reasons why couples don’t survive – and while it all may seem overwhelming and mentally exhausting, meeting with a divorce attorney doesn’t have to add to that stress. If you decide you want to meet with a divorce attorney the first thing you need to do is schedule a consultation.  Remember, it’s just an initial meeting, a fact-finding session for both you and the attorney – you don’t need to retain the firm on the spot so there shouldn’t be any pressure. Your initial consultation is going to include a lot of questions from the attorney but [...]

By |2021-03-16T18:41:09-04:00October 7, 2019|Divorce Blog Posts|
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